Iam lonely, isolated and have no direction in life, im at big disadvantages to - should i give up ?

im a bpd and ptsd sufferer, iam 30 years old and have had a very rough life.


i have never built up any relationships in life with either male or female because of the trauma and mental health problems i sustained.





growing up and throughout my life i have been bullied severley....ive suffered assaults, muggings...time in a psyche hospital...survived alot of horrible thangs..





ive never been employed, never had qualifications....and have been on welfare benifit the majority of my life.





i live in a small flat owning '' no '' possessions except an old computer....i have a criminal record......physical health worries and imperfections:


ive aged prematurley...dark lines under my eyes....im bald....i have 2 missing teeth, front, bottom row...need implants, which are expensive.





torn ankle ligaments, need surgery- my skin looks coarse, pasty...dark lines under my eyes, like deep dark pits. my skin has aged.





iam lonely, isolated %26amp; have no one there for me.

Iam lonely, isolated and have no direction in life, im at big disadvantages to - should i give up ?
hiya





a few years back, my confidence level was almost 0. i was bullied for quite a few years in school. in fact, from age 9, till i stopped school when i was 15. im disabled. i have 2 crooked legs and a crooked spine. i have treatment in hospital 3 times a week and will eventually need a kidney transplant.





what i HAVE found though is that there IS at least one friend out there for everyone. you may not find them immediately, in fact it may take you years to find them. but you WILL one day. life isnt all bad.





as for qualifications, check out open university. www.open.ac.uk correspondence courses, so you dont even need to leave your home. and theyre cheaper than normal colleges/universities.





as for physical looks? the people that matter wont worry about how you look. it took me YEARS to realise that, but it is true.





email me if you ever need to talk to me. even if i dont reply immediately, i will reply soon as i can.





take care, hugs
Reply:Dont give up!!! There is hope. There are facilities you may want to try to get into that will help you medically and emotionally and will give you independece as well as support. And it is okay to use the welfare system, that is why it was made to help people that are suffering. There is nothing that will take away what has happend to you in the past but you can grow from that and help other people in the future when you get better. Good luck!
Reply:Actually, I understand the UK is a pretty good place to be unemployed with health problems. :)





There are some drugs (ecstasy) which are rumored to be promising for PTSD, so maybe that can be solved soon, expecially if you volunteer for a trial.





You might try taking long walks in the sun. This could help physical *and* mental health.





Some philosophies have that no possessions are a good thing.





If you study, you may be able to become an expert on your problems, and help other people similarly afflicted.
Reply:dont give up.it p.sses me off when people go on about killing themselves when other people who want to live die of cancer and other illnesses
Reply:I read a few years back that yoga has been successful in helping people deal with PTSD. It may also help to relieve some of your physical pain by stimulating circulation gently. Most yoga studios have special classes for people with injuries, or verbally make suggestions on how to modify postures for people who are injured. Yoga classes tend to be nonjudgmental places that are open to everybody, regardless of your background or abilities, and many facilities will let you do small chores on site (like cleaning or folding towels) in exchange for classes, if you can not pay. You could call whatever yoga facilities are near you, and ask if arrangements could be made as such. You could visit the facility in advance, meet the instructor, and see what the place is like before you attend, so it's already a familiar environment, if you do wish to join them. You can also tell them precisely what you have shared here. They will most likely understand.





I suffered from PTSD and depression for years, and it took a serious toll on my health, leaving me completely bedridden and incapable of completing even the smallest tasks within my own home. I found that starting anything was an enormous hurdle that would send my heart racing and leave me terrified to even put my feet on the floor, so that the only option was to dive back under the covers. I genuinely found that joining a gym helped a great deal, both with the physical issues that had arisen from the lifestyle changes that depression had forced upon me, along with the side effects of antidepressants, and also with the emotional blockages I faced. Getting out the door was the hardest part, but I chose a 24-hour facility, so that if 3am was the only time I felt brave enough to do it, I could.


Also, I hope that you are still seeing a professional to help you deal with all of this.I know that sometimes when a person has been involved with in-patient treatment, it is common to feel fearful and mistrustful of mental health workers after. If this is the case with you, please reconsider. Talk to a therapist, and maybe try to find a support group. Perhaps in a support group, you will meet people who understand what you're going through, and will be able to understand your challenges enough to not run away from them. You may find friendship there, and a network of people who will pool resources with you, and help you get back on top.


Good luck, and best wishes.
Reply:I wish you the best dude. I was bullied when I was younger. Its a terrible thing. Theres people in worse scenarios though. Not saying that you dont have it rough. You gotta grab life by the horns and get Yours. Persistence man... Find Jesus, Find somthing that your passionate about, look for ways to Better yourself. Self improvement. get organized. Nobody said life was gonna be easy.


Hope things start to lighten up for you


God bless
Reply:no i am in a mess too if u give up it can never be better
Reply:I read some of your profile and would like to ask if you are multilingual? If so what languages do you speak. This could be a doorway to geting a job. Once you are working you will have entered the world of possibilities as you will have money. Money solves a lot of problems. When you have money you can see a therapist, fix yourself up, and go out on dates. So really all you need is a good paying job. You can get one if you have language skills, especially at schools and universities.



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